Often times, couples fall into the same pattern of arguing. To find who truly is at fault, each partner can talk over the other in a futile attempt to prove his or her version of the issue that sparked the argument, is the “right” version.  This only results in a communication break down where no one’s point of view is actually being heard. Sound familiar?

How does one stay connected to their partner even when discussing differences? You can stay connected by welcoming your partner’s perspective and validating it. This doesn’t mean you have to agree with it but you can accept it as valid just as you feel your perspective is. (more…)