Daily Archives: May 30, 2012

Turning to a confidant about your relationship problems? Ensure it is helping you and your relationship.

When dealing with a difficult situation in your relationship, it is common to turn to a family member or friend for a supportive ear.  Unfortunately, sometimes that supportive ear may be creating more problems in your relationship. One way turning to a confidant can be detrimental to your relationship is if that person colludes with you. This will prevent you from seeing your part in it and believing the state of the relationship is solely your partner’s fault. It is also counterproductive if your confidant feels anger towards your partner instead of staying neutral.  Lastly, it is clear they do not value your relationship or its longevity,  if your confidant seems to encourage you to leave the relationship after each fight instead of helping you work on it. (more…)