Being aware your own energy can benefit your relationship greatly. Think of your relationship as the space between you and your partner and think of that space as a sacred one. Set the intention of filling that space with positive, loving energy…always. If you have children, it is even more important that you set this intention and deliver on it because that space is the air that your children live and breathe.
One way of remaining intentional about emanating positive and loving energy into the sacred space is to make a habit of assessing your own energy before you are in the presence of your partner. Ask yourself, “What is my mood like right now?” and “what do my posture, facial expression and movements portray?” If your energy is negative, impatient, anxious, or angry it can lead to your relationship feeling emotionally unsafe. Learn how to press your own reset button. For example, take a few moments to yourself to breathe deeply, go for a walk or anything else you know to do that can help you to enter that space in a responsible manner. In doing so, not only are you being respectful of your partner’s emotional safety but you are also setting up your interaction to be successful and connected.